To do well in life, you must believe in yourself. You are the one person you can truly rely on. Your belief about yourself, and your abilities, reflects in your personal success and happiness. When you lack confidence in yourself, others pick up on that, and don’t take you seriously, and in turn your confidence can shrink even more.
Belief in yourself opens the doors of opportunity to your dreams and aspirations. It allows you to live your truth and be your best self. You are an important and integral part of life as much as anyone and anything else. You have a purpose! When you believe in yourself, the ability to follow your passions and live your purpose is available. You are allowing good things to come to you, and your belief in yourself allows you to act on those opportunities.
But, in this often highly competitive and demanding society we live in, we can feel small, unworthy and far from confident.
That doesn’t mean it’s not possible. It just takes specific skills and habits that must be consistently practiced.
Here are 5 Ways to Make Yourself Believe in Yourself:
1. Reflect on your past success.
If you’re in an emotional rut, use the tools from your past and get yourself out. Here’s an exercise: Vividly remember a time when you absolutely just kicked butt! You rocked it! You exceeded your own expectation. 🙂 Put yourself there and feel the excitement and pride you had inside. Now, remember you can do it again.
It’s healthy to use the past to your advantage. Too often we easily recall what has hurt us, but we can just as easily allow the past to help us propel.
If you need a bigger boost, repeat the exercise.
2. Seek positive external validation.
Every day we are subconsciously seeking validation, essentially for love in some form. That level of validation depends upon the attitude of the people around us.
If we surround ourselves with positive people who care about us, cherish our strengths, and help us be uplifted, we will flourish. However, if we are around people with negative, limiting beliefs, we can become surrounded in a negative environment, not providing ourselves with the fertile ground we need to grow.
Happy, confident, successful people credit others. We all need positive encouragement. That can be a good friend, family member, or mentor.
3. Transform your self talk.
We create who we are, everyday, by our daily beliefs and self talk. Our words are essentially affirmation. It’s important that we talk to ourselves with love and kindness. We deserve our own compliments.
For some that can be incredibly difficult. We can compliment and love others, but… love ourselves? It seems egotistical! But, it’s not.
You deserve your love and appreciation more than anyone else. Shine your light and love towards every area you feel needs improvement.
Embrace your flaws? But, doesn’t that mean you’re accepting and allowing them to be there?
Actually, loving your flaws releases them and allows them to become whole and well again. If you are having a hard time, switch your focus to another area and come back to it later.
This practice can be achieved easier through daily personal affirmations and mirror work.
4. Give fears less credit, give yourself more.
Fear is merely false evidence appearing real. It’s worry set on fire. It holds you back from believing in yourself more than anything else. It’s an illusion.
Realizing that your fear is not real is the first step (which can actually be hard to do, so when you do you are well on your way).
Transcend the fear with action and do not hesitate. Yep, just like the Latin Proverb – Carpe Diem!
You are capable of much more than you believe. When you conquer a fear you allow for more of your true self to shine. Keep up the momentum and declare to conquer a few fears in a specific amount of time (like one a month). In a year, you’ll look back and feel like a completely new you! 😉
5. Celebrate the positive.
Your every day attitude affects how you treat yourself and others. Strive to be an optimist and see the good in the world. Focus on what you love about yourself and your strengths. Celebrate who you are and the good people you have in your life. Feel gratitude for everything going right and all the blessings on the way.
A positive attitude is the quickest way to believing in yourself. It bypasses everything else and gets right to the end goal – happiness, love, success and belief in yourself.