by Vishnus Virtues
Growing up, I believed the world I lived in was a struggle.
And you know, I was right.
At home, I repeatedly heard things like, “money doesn’t grow on trees,” and “we can’t afford that.” I began to notice that things that I wanted cost too much and were out of reach.
While working in our small family business growing up, I heard my parents say regularly that business was a struggle and it was hard to make it by every month. And again, it was. Our family tried to save money everywhere it could and put off putting things until the next month. I remember asking for fee waivers for different projects at school or scholarships to go on field trips.
I noticed that our financial and economic life was a struggle.
My Indian parents talked (lectured) a lot but were not very open in communicating and never spoke about their feelings. I came to see the world as one where it was abnormal to talk about feelings and normal to hide how one really felt.
In my own relationships and marriage later, I came to see non-communication as acceptable without realizing how detrimental it was. Talking about feelings felt like a sign of weakness and it was better to be silent than bringing emotions into the mix.
I’ve realized that our perspective in life stems from the things we’ve experienced and the people we’ve interacted with.
The way you view the world reflects the way the world has treated you.
The way the world has treated you gives you the lenses you use to see the circumstances in your life.
- Believe in lack and poverty: encounter financial insecurity.
- Believe in adversity and tough times: perceive everything in life as a struggle.
- Believe that dreams take forever to come true: notice that your life is at a constant standstill.
If you have certain negative beliefs about the way the world works and the way the world treats you — beliefs you’ve developed throughout the course of your life — know that there’s good news: you can do something about it.
You can turn around your disempowering view of life.
To see the world differently, you must change the filter you’re using to view the circumstances around you.
Once you change the filter you use to see the world; you’ll perceive life events as entirely different from what you previously imagined. And ultimately, you’ll live a much richer and more abundant life.
Here’s 4 ways you can change your life’s beliefs to have more empowering life experiences:
1. Awaken to your world view.
Most of your life you’ve taken what people have told you about your life and merged it with your personal experiences. This has shaped your world view.
What you must do now is call out this world view and realize it’s just one perspective.
If you believe that finding a job is difficult or that doing your life’s work is impossible, become aware of this perspective.
Take note of the beliefs you hold in each area of your life.
What is your belief about money?
What is your belief about work?
What is your view about problems and struggles you face?
As a simple exercise, write down each area of your life you want to explore: Money, Work, Dreams, Career, Job Security, Relationships, etc.
Under each category, write down what you believe about that area. What are your views about each area?
For example, work. Do you believe that the harder you work, the more you earn?
Do you believe that to earn more, you need more education?
Do you believe that work has to be in an office and 9-5?
Do you believe in staying in one job for life?
Notice these are simply beliefs that represent one perspective. These beliefs are not true for everyone – just true for you.
2. Flip the script.
If you’ve written your take on each area of your life, you’re in a place to change your life’s perspective.
Now, review each area and acknowledge that your views and beliefs about the world may not be the ultimate truth.
Your beliefs may be true for you based on your circumstances, but they’re not the ultimate “truth. ”
These beliefs may be true for you based on what you heard when you were growing up and on the life experiences you’ve had, but room exists for a different perspective.
If you have a negative or disempowering world view, acknowledge this and be open to the existence of an opposing world view.
If you believe money is tight and difficult to come by, acknowledge that the opposite world view is that money is easy to come by and the world is filled with abundance.
If you believe your job is a means of earning a living and that’s it, acknowledge that your work is your life’s greatest contribution. Acknowledge that some people are living their purpose while doing their life’s work every day.
Whatever negative or disempowering views you have of the world, look at the opposite and contrary view of what you currently believe.
3. See the world through new lenses.
Once you have a better understanding of what you believe and how you see the world, and after you’ve acknowledged the flip side of the coin, start seeing the world through a new set of lenses.
When something happens to you or around you, don’t neatly store that new incident in the same old belief system file.
Be willing to challenge the way you interpret the events in your life.
If you encounter a problem, look for the lesson in it.
If you face a setback at work, determine how it helps you pursue your greater purpose.
If a salesman tricks you, realize how much savvier you’ve become as a result.
If someone breaks your heart, see how it’s really setting you up for your life’s best relationship.
When dealing with life’s events, know that you have two choices and that you have the power to determine how you see each event.
You can view the circumstance or problem through your old lenses and your former belief system, or you can look at it under a more empowering light.
You determine whether it’s positive or negative.
You decide whether it’s helpful or harmful.
You choose whether the life event is a setback or a lesson.
I’m encouraging you to look at your life events using your new perspective – via the shades of abundance, happiness, positivity and growth.
Look at situations and people in the best light.
4. Celebrate, call out and expect to see the world you desire.
Here’s the best part about seeing the world through a different set of lenses.
Your life will literally start to change.
If you perceive people as helpful and events (even bad ones) as leaning in your favor, you’ll encounter a world that’s pulling for you and that
wants you to succeed.
To keep the good things coming your way, acknowledge and celebrate the new developments in your life.
Instead of seeing a bad boss as a terrible manager, realize how much better you’re becoming at your work through the mentoring you’re receiving. Also, acknowledge how much better you’re getting at dealing with abusive bosses.
Instead of seeing a layoff as a life-crushing event, call it out as a positive, life-changing event. You would never have left the job you hated, but the fact that you were let go allows you to reprioritize your life and do work that really matters.
Continue to see circumstances with positive new lenses.
Acknowledge the circumstances of your life and celebrate them. Try to appreciate everything that happens to you and look for the silver linings even in the worst life events.
Stay optimistic; expect things to turn out in your favor.
Expect to encounter people who help you, work that promotes you, relationships that fulfill you and gifts from nowhere that truly surprise you.
Maintain a positive vibe and be open to the possibility that the world will create positive circumstances in your life.
And come to see how every circumstance furthers your purpose, improves your life and gets you closer to your dreams.
Once you choose to see the world in a more uplifting light, you’ll notice positive developments, favorable events and more abundance.
Your perspective and belief system
shape your world view.
Be willing to flip your perspective and alter your belief system and watch your life transform.
Vishnus Virtues, Author, Blogger and Life Coach
Vishnu writes a popular relationship and personal development coaching blog. He coaches people who are going through divorces start over, get unstuck and find their purpose in life.