October 30, 2015 by Jana Rooheart
It is obvious that to change your life, you need to do something. However, many people simply don’t know where to start. Here are 15 tips on how to change your life bit by bit and to start enjoying and appreciating what you have.
Start spending time with the right people
Right people are those whose company you enjoy. These people appreciate you and support you when you want to change your life for good. They make you feel alive and accept you for who you are and who you want to become.
Be honest with yourself
Basically, you are the only person you can always rely on. So why should you lie to yourself? Be honest about what’s right and what’s wrong in your life. be honest about your achievements and who you want to be. Learn to understand who you truly are; have no illusions.
Make your happiness a priority
Your needs are very important. If you don’t respect yourself, don’t take care of yourself and don’t think your desires are important, you only make your life harder.
Remember: you can take care of yourself not neglecting other people’s wishes and needs. And when your own needs are satisfied, you’ll be able to help other people.
Learn to capture the moment
Right now miracles are happening. Now is the only moment in your life you can be sure of. Now is life!
So stop thinking about the huge things you will accomplish in the future and stop worrying about what you did or didn’t do in the past. Learn to be here and now.
Enjoy the things you have
The problem of many people is that they think they’ll become happy when they get to the certain point in life, for example, if they will get promoted, get married or buy a new house. These things take time and the truth is that when you have them, you think of new things you cannot be happy without. Thus, you’ll work your whole life to achieve something and eventually won’t enjoy any of it. Learn how to relax and to be happy about the things you already have.
Believe that you are ready for the next step
You are ready right now, actually. You have everything for your next little step forward. Accept the opportunities that come on your way and agree to changes. It is a gift that helps you move forward.
Compete only with the past you
Get inspired by other people, appreciate other people, learn from them, but don’t compete! It is a waste of time. You always compete with only one person – you. You compete to become a better you. Have a goal to beat your own achievements and you’ll be fine.
Learn to be happy about other people’s victories
Start noticing what you like about other people and tell them that. Acknowledging that you are surrounded by nice people leads to the best things. Be happy for those who achieve something. Wish them best and those people will do the same for you.
Start forgiving yourself and other people
Sooner or later everyone feels bad about their own decisions or other people’s mistakes. It is normal to feel this way, but sometimes it lasts too long. We relive these memories over and over again making this unpleasant time in our life even longer.
The only cure here is forgiveness. it doesn’t mean you forget about what happened. It means that you let the pain go away and see it as another life experience.
Start taking care of others
Show compassion to others, guide them if you feel you are competent. The more you help other people, the more they help you. Love and kindness always come back. The most important thing, of course, is to take care of your family. If you have kids, you should protect them in any way you can. Many parents today undergo much less stress about their kids by installing android or other parental control programs on their phones so that they can always know where their children are. Taking care of the close ones is as important as taking care of yourself.
Watch out for stress!
Calm down and breath in. Stop and take some rest if you feel you are overstressed. When you are overwhelmed with work, a small break can refresh your brain and increase your productivity. Besides, short breaks allow you to look back and to make sure your actions are leading you to your goals.
Start noticing the beauty of small events
Instead of waiting for big events, such as weddings, promotions, anniversaries, etc., look for happiness in small and sometimes even invisible things that happen every day. A cup of coffee in the early morning, delicious smell of home-made food; the happiness to share a moment with people you love are all the precious things in your life. Start noticing these little pleasures and your life will become more meaningful.
Move towards your goals every day.
Whatever you dream about, start moving in that direction not missing one day. Every little step, every small action and tiny achievement make you closer to your goals.
Be more open with your feelings
If you are hurt, give yourself some time to get through it. Don’t shut it down deep inside you so that it can explode one day. Talk to your friends, let them know how you feel and they’ll comfort you. This easy step is actually very important and will spare you numerous psychiatrists in the future.
Concentrate on the things you can control
You cannot change everything. Wasting your energy, talent and emotions on the things that are out of your control is the best way to feel helpless and disappointed. That is why you should turn your efforts only to those things you can change.
The post is written by Jana Rooheart, an aspiring writer, blogger and motivational speaker. She is inspired by helping people, creating educational and motivational posts and getting feedback for her work.